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Dear Diary: Paying attention to our own life

Dear Diary,

You are going to meet some people in life Who do not chase their dreams. They are the people who do not dare to work hard to live the life to the fullest or at least the way they desire. May be they fear the social conditions around them and think more about what other people will think if they live life on their own terms. In a way, they fear success. As the life goes on, their dissatisfaction level grows as their soul does not find an expression. Over a period of time , they tend to get envious of the people who they think are more happy and more successful than them. 

Even if you try to befriend such people, they do not turn out to be good friends as they always think how successful you are, and they get depressed by thinking so. They can turn around anytime and can start working towards their dreams to stay happy but unfortunately most of them would have accumulated so much of social baggage that it would seem impossible for them to drop the baggage and start all over again.

I have seen people who do not live their own life. For example, a person was very happy with his Maruti Alto car but the day he saw his neighbour driving a bigger and better car than his, he too desired to get a bigger luxury car. Now his income was not enough to afford the bigger car, So he took a car loan to finance the new car. Again, he was happy for some days until the other neighbour told him that he has purchased a new weekend home. He targeted to buy a weekend home too and ultimately fell into traps of too many loans. The man went into depression and now takes medication to get rid of depression.

There are a kind of people who always try to find a fault in others life. People who do not know how to bring up children give birth to more than one kid just because their friends or relatives have multiple kids. They seem to be in a rat race in every aspect of life. If you see them how unhappy they are, you will not feel like having your own children. They say because they bring up their children, they had to sacrifice their job, hobbies etc. The same people, when they  talk about how they suffer because of their own inefficiency of raising  multiple kids, in the same breath they talk ill of other people who are childless or have chosen to remain childless and happier . 

It’s extremely critical to live a life which one truly enjoys and It’s absolute stupidity to compare your life with others and accumulate stuffs  just to show a comparative social status over others . Life is very short, and life is intelligent enough to catch us one day if we do not pay attention to our own life and happiness. Does it ring a bell?


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About the author

Monalisa Dash Dwibedy

She is the author of poetry collection "Pearls of a Strawberry Moon".She lives in Toronto , Canada with her family. Her work is published worldwide in many prestigious literary journals and magazines.She can be reached at [email protected]

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